My Marriage Is…

In relationships, conflict is inevitable. Therefore, it behooves the two people involved in the relationship to be ready when it happens. I believe that making positive, Word-inspired declarations over your relationship daily is key to being mentally and spiritually prepared when moments of conflict arise. Here are some words you can speak over your marriage, as I am speaking them over mine.

My marriage is purposeful.

My marriage is God-honoring.

My marriage is spiritually, emotionally, and physically fulfilling.

My marriage is edifying to us and others.

My marriage is a ministry.

My marriage is a powerful force against the Kingdom of darkness.

My marriage is Heaven sent.

My marriage is free of infidelity.

My marriage is unified.

My marriage is fortified by the Word of God.

My marriage is strong.

My marriage is until death do us part.

My marriage is a gift.

My marriage is a blessing.

My marriage is a positive example to others.

My marriage is supportive.

My marriage is a safe-haven.

My marriage is peaceful.

My marriage is fun and enjoyable.

My marriage is my priority.


What else can be added to this declaration regarding relationships?

Styled by Seduction or Sanctification?

I was once mistaken for a groupie back in the day. Hard to believe, right? I’m pretty conservative or modest in my appearance now, but as a young woman I intentionally wore outfits to draw attention from the opposite sex. That was until someone actually propositioned me for sex based on my appearance.


How dare he?! I was offended. I was appalled. Why would he think that I would give it up? Well, he was perverted in his thinking to make that assumption about me, but it wasn’t all on him. I suggested something to him with what I was or was not wearing. So today I ask the saints of God…what are your clothes saying to the people around you?

I know someone may be thinking, “Wait a minute now, don’t go messing with my clothes because ain’t nothing wrong with dressing sexy.”

True. There is nothing wrong with dressing sexy (revealing) in a setting that is meant to be sexy (ie. date night with the husband or in the privacy of your own home), but besides that we have to be mindful to keep it classy and sanctified. When I say sanctified I don’t mean skirts down to your ankles with turtlenecks in the summer. I mean dressing in a way that exudes godliness, not with the intent to enhance those lady lumps to the point of distraction for our brothers. (ie. boobs out, pants, dresses, and skirts so tight that nothing is left to the imagination.) I mean nothing.

Listen, I’m a skinny girl for the most part and I’ve been working out lately. The obliques are popping for sure, but do I wear mid-drift tops? No. Not because I can’t, but because I choose not to reveal my goodies to the world. That treat is for my husband’s eyes only. I know we love attention as women. Sure, it makes us feel good when a man compliments our figures, but we shouldn’t seek that kind of attention. Consider this quote from


“Immodest dress, flirtatious glances and seductive body language designed to attract male attention are just as ungodly as the lustful thoughts they provoke. When I stop seeing men as potential suitors and start seeing them as brothers in Christ, I won’t resent restrictions like the need to dress modestly; love will transform the way I dress, act and speak.”

Instead of subconsciously provoking men to lust after us, let’s consciously provoke them to love and to good works. (Hebrews 10:24)

Have any of you besides me ever transformed your dress to align with your Christian morals and values?

Indie Author Legacy Award 2017

MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT! I’ve been selected as a finalist for Author of the Year in the relationship category for the upcoming #IALAwards to be held in Baltimore, MD on Saturday, June 24, 2017. Learn more about this groundbreaking event at
I am so honored to be selected as a finalist for this award from Purposely Created Publishing and excited about what God is still doing with “Wait on God.” Watch Him work!