Archive for Relationship with Self

The Food and Follicle Connection

As a natuHype-Hair-Natural-Hairralista for the past 12 years, I’ve come to terms with the fact that my hair takes work. Lots of it. It’s a relationship that is quite complicated at times. I love it, but I don’t always like it. I appreciate its thickness, but I hate the length of time it takes to style it. I love its versatility, but I hate that many really cute styles only stay cute for a few days. Nevertheless, I AM STILL IN LOVE WITH MY NATURAL HAIR! My hair doesn’t always love me or the way I treat it though. Over the years, I’ve learned that natural hair doesn’t automatically mean healthy hair. There are things that I have to do even beyond protective styling to keep my locks looking and feeling their best. I’m willing to bet you have too. To help, I’ve invited Kenyona McLeod, owner of Shear Glamour Salon and creator of Kennesential Beauty products (www.kenessential.com) to share her knowledge on achieving the healthiest hair possible. So, let your hair down and let’s get our luscious locks on!

Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth. 3 John 2

I believe the Bible rates health right near the top of the list in importance. Man’s mind, spiritual nature, and body are all interconnected and dependent. What affects one can affect the other. If our bodies are misused, or if we live a gluttonous lifestyle (In Luke 21:34, Christ specifically warns against overeating in the last days), we could be putting ourselves at risk for health problems. Overeating is responsible for many degenerative diseases. Poor food choices make our bodies sluggish and our energy low. In that state it is difficult to efficiently perform what God has ordained and called us to do. Poor food and lifestyle choices can also affect the health of our hair.

Most of us dream of having long, luscious, flowing tresses, but no thanks to genetics, stress or other environmental factors, many of us have been left with hair that rarely sparkles or shines. Fortunately, a healthy diet and smart lifestyle changes can be the perfect marriage for your hair and body. Adopting a clean eating lifestyle can have your hair looking luscious. Truly healthy hair is the result of a well-nourished body and a nutrient-rich diet. What you put in is what you get out.

We often talk about hair as an extension of us and how we should handle and maintain it from the outside in so we can be able to achieve long hair, but how often will we hear people talk about the correlation between exercise and clean eating to make the hair stronger and longer?

There are several reasons why the whole body health connection would support the conclusion that in the quest for longer hair, clean eating is a huge factor. Others argue that longer hair is more about caring for the strand rather than the whole body. I believe your body and hair is a direct result of what you ingest… if you have a fatty fast food addiction, chances are your hair and body shows signs of this.

Healthy tips for achieving the stronger, longer hair you desire.

Eat Well

While you might not be able to change your hair growth rate which is about ¼ to ½ inch a month, it is possible that the vitamins and minerals present with a healthy diet will allow you maximize your natural hair growth rate. Think about eating healthy as deep conditioning your body from the inside out. A lifestyle high in fruits and vegetables will give you the minerals and vitamins needed for healthy hair and skin.

Nuts such as almonds, walnuts, and pecans are a great source of biotin, a vitamin known to help promote hair growth. Salmon Omega-3 fatty acids are essential nutrients for healthy hair and skin, and since your body cannot produce them on its own, it’s important you get these fatty acids from your diet. Eating two servings of fatty fish like salmon or tuna per week can help keep your hair full and long. Sweet potatoes are another wonderful food for hair growth due to their high dosage of beta carotene, the precursor of Vitamin A, which helps to keep hair from becoming dry and brittle. According to Livestrong.com, avocados are high in vitamin B and E, and fatty acids, preventing you from hair loss and breakage, strengthening your scalp, and providing that gleam and shine that most long hair girls desire.

Exercise Regularly

Regular exercise may improve blood circulation and allows the vitamins and minerals discussed previously to travel to the scalp where they are needed. Increasing blood flow to your scalp is one of the best ways to promote hair and scalp health. An increase in blood flow means that your hair is getting the nutrients it needs, but it also prevents dandruff, psoriasis, and other scalp problems. Studies have shown that better circulation in your scalp can even help your hair to grow faster. (www.theluxuryspot.com/increase-scalp- circulation/)

Manage Stress

Some people experience more hair loss or breakage during periods of high stress. Regular exercise is known to have a positive impact on blood pressure and mood which could help manage stress.

Think you cannot incorporate daily exercise into your already busy lifestyle? Remember stolen moments add up. Experts recommend working out 45 minutes to an hour a day (30 minutes for beginners) for weight loss and fitness. But if you’re like most women, you don’t always have a block of 30 to 60 minutes a day to devote exclusively to doing your workouts. Lest you think that short bursts of activity have a negligible effect on your fitness program, think again. One study found that women who split their exercise into 10-minute increments were more likely to exercise consistently, and lost more weight after five months, than women who exercised for 20 to 40 minutes at a time. (www.prevention.com)

Chat with Kenyona. What is your hair’s story? What have you discovered about the best way to care for your hair?

KenyKenyonaona McLeod is a Master hair care stylist and natural beauty mixologist, owner of Shear Glamour Salon, Shear Glamour Cosmetics and the creator of Kenessential Beauty a luxurious hair and body care line. She has been a licensed stylist for 20 years; she loves what she does and enjoys finding new ways to take hair and body care to the level of fabulousness. Kenyona has been trained under world renowned styling artists from Redken, Paul Mitchell, Mizani, Affirm, Kera Care, Design Essentials, Influence and B&B Bronner Bros.

“I believe everyone should enjoy and love their hair and body, and glamorizing what you have naturally, every time I step behind my chair or sell a product, I pray each and every client achieves their top level of beauty inside and out; and I’m here to make sure you fall madly in love with yourself and have the tools and resources to do so.

 

The Similarities of Sisters and Swine

pig_ringWhat does a nose ring-clad pig and a woman who uses poor judgment have in common? Well, let’s first explore the ridiculousness of swagged-out swine. No really. It’s ridiculous. And so is thinking that good looks and thickness in the hips and lips is what gives you value as a woman. It doesn’t matter how young or old you are (although being up in age and having this mindset does up the level of ridiculosity), you are not and should never be defined by your exterior, or your posterior for that matter. Use of discretion (making sound, godly decisions) coupled with beauty (inner is more important than outer) is what we should strive to develop and walk in as women of God.

King Solomon realized the value of discretion in a woman in Proverbs 11:22.

“Beauty in a woman without good judgment is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.” (GNT)

Besides being ridiculous, a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a major devaluing of what is made to have great value. The ring ends up wallowing in the same mud and slop as the pig it’s attached to, and in that state it isn’t fit to adorn anybody’s hand as it should. It would have to be removed from its previous environment, washed thoroughly clean, and placed in the possession of someone who would properly care for it before being able to shine and add that expected bling factor.

Well, my sister this describes the sanctification process for believers as well. The blood of Jesus cleanses us from unrighteousness, delivers us from the hands of satan and places us into the hands of our Heavenly Father, and we must remove ourselves from our former environment and ungodly influences in order to reflect God’s glory in the earth.

It is our job to allow a continual cleansing to occur in our lives by the Word of God. Returning to or staying in the same old environment with the same old friends, hanging out in the same old places, and doing the same old things is what keeps us in the same old defeated, misused, and abused state. It’s time for a real, lasting change, and that starts with a decision from you.

When I was about 18 years old I had a life changing come-to-Jesus moment. I had just graduated from high school and was a few weeks away from going off to basic training in the Army Reserves. Now having access to the local Army base, I decided to attend a concert with a friend of mine to hear one of my favorite male singing groups perform.

I wanted to look my best and a little sexy too, so I wore a slinky, form fitting dress with no support for the my girls (If you know what I mean). I was so sexy (and I guess groupy looking) that one of the members of the group invited me to his hotel room. In retrospect I realize that was a trap set by satan to get me in a compromising position literally, but in my eighteen year-old head I thought this was an awesome opportunity to hang out with a celebrity. How cool? Not cool at all because what I thought was an innocent and fun after party turned into  a proposition for sex. Thankfully, I declined the offer. Thankfully I made it out of there without something terrible happening to me. Nevertheless I was still devastated. I felt foolish because I misinterpreted his intentions. What about me said “I’m easy” to him? I wondered. I’m sure my outfit and the fact that I ended up following their limousine to the gas station had something to do with it. At that moment I decided that I didn’t ever want anybody ever again to draw that conclusion about me. When I got home I cleaned my closet of all suggestive clothing (including the dress I had on) and asked the Holy Spirit to give me wisdom and a conviction about my appearance to avoid sending the wrong messages to men.

Just in case you think you’re off the hook because you are already modest in your dress, good judgment also applies to non-clothing related things as well. It applies to any decision you make that either brings shame or glory to the God you serve. It applies to the things you say, the things you post, how you treat people, what you do when no one is looking, and how you respond in tough situations. Do your current actions honor God or do they offend Him? Do they make you a beacon of light or a promoter of darkness? Think about that the next time you pose for a picture or share intimate details of your life with others that really are none of their business anyway. Think about that when things or people make you angry or an opportunity to do something dishonest presents itself.

I want to strongly encourage you make a decision today to be the woman God has called to be and shun the woman the world is saying you should be. You are a precious jewel in the sight of your Father and have been snatched out of the pig’s snout (aka.the world) for His holy purposes. Think it, live it, and be proud of it!

Building Up the Gratitude Muscle

muscleI was watching Dr. Oz yesterday, and Robin Roberts, the Good Morning America anchor, was on the show sharing her story of triumph over cancer and another disease caused by her cancer treatment. She credits her recovery to maintaining a positive attitude throughout each ordeal and to a spirit of gratitude, a phenomenon that even her physicians find interesting enough to research. She said that gratitude was like a muscle. I thought that statement was very profound, so I’ve decided to explore that analogy a little further in recognition of this season of thanksgiving. Let’s get ready to work our gratitude muscles, shall we?

There are several similarities between gratitude and a human muscle.

1. Gratitude, like a muscle, remains underdeveloped if it is not exercised. Have you ever seen someone who started out skinny as a twig and after months of weight lifting looked as big as an ox? It is amazing how much muscles can transform when a little iron is pumped. But what happens when that same man stops working out? The muscle mass is lost, and he ends up back where he started. In order to maintain growth he must continue to do what built up the muscles in the first place.  Hebrews 13:15 (KJV) says “By him therefore let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually, that is, the fruit of our lips giving thanks to his name.” Praise, or gratitude, is expected of believers, and it is expected continually. The more we express our gratitude to God the more it builds us up, but if we refuse to do it or do it only sporadically, then our gratitude remains weak and so do we.

2. Gratitude is strained when pressure is applied to it. Lifting weights causes muscles to tear and that causes soreness in the muscles worked.  When those muscles are sore it can be difficult to continue exercising them and we want to quit, but when we continue it gets easier and easier over time. Similarly, when we face difficulties in our lives our attitude of gratitude is challenged and we feel as if gratitude is pointless or impossible, but that is when we should be grateful the most. It is much easier to have a pity party and go around complaining when things are not going our way, but the Bible tells us to give thanks in everything, for this is God’s will for us (1 Thessalonians 5:8). God is very clear about when and in what situations we should be thankful–in everything and at all times. He did not say we should like or enjoy everything, but that we must maintain a thankful attitude through everything. Perhaps you don’t like your boss or your coworkers or the amount of money in your bank account or your relationship status.  There is still plenty to be thankful for in spite of it all.  Work through the tough times and no matter how painful things become press forward in praise.  The pain is good for you because it only leads to your growth.

3. The more you exercise gratitude the stronger you become and the more weight you can handle. When we lift weights regularly our muscles develop muscle memory.  The weight that seemed too heavy to lift one week becomes easier to lift the next week.  That’s because your muscles learned to adjust to the weight. The next time they are called upon to lift the original weight they are ready. They are stronger and ready for the next physical challenge. Gratitude works in much the same way. The familiar saying “trials come to make you strong” is true. Those trials are our opportunity to be built up in our faith and gratitude through practicing the habit of thankfulness. If we learn to be thankful when we find our bank account overdrawn one time, we can still be thankful if it happens again or if something worst happens to our money because we’ve learned how to handle it. In other words, the situations that shook you before won’t shake you anymore because you’re stronger and ready for the next spiritual challenge. Moreover, we will be able to say, “But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ” (1 Corinthians 15:57 KJV). I’ve witnessed others who have managed to keep a smile on their faces and a praise on their lips in what I would call the most difficult circumstances. That is true spiritual strength.  Hear this, that strength is not reserved for special people.  It is available for those who put in the work necessary to become stronger and better as a result of the things they go through.

Yes, gratitude is a muscle we cannot afford to leave undeveloped. It takes work, but the work pays off in strength that we never knew we had all along.

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How will you develop your gratitude muscle?